Every once in a while, I receive a question from a reader that I’m not sure I can thoroughly answer. When that happens, I want to turn to you – you with your wit and wisdom, to help out the reader, the crowd, and myself.
This is one of those moments.
Men. I don’t get them.
They’ll eat two-week-old chicken fettuccine straight from the bowl in the refrigerator. They pick their toes unabashedly. They roll around in mud playing football and watch TV with their hands down their pants.
They do really weird, dirty things – and yet, when we suggest they try going natural with the products, they go, “EW. WEIRD. GROSS!”
At least some of them do.
A few weeks ago, I received an email that went like this:
Dear Crunchy Betty,
I’ve been working really hard at getting my husband to be more crunchy, but there’s a lot of resistance to it on his part. He calls it “weird” and “unnecessary.”
He doesn’t complain much about the homemade laundry detergent, but when I try to get him to use homemade body oils instead of store-bought moisturizer or when I tell him that his hair would be perfect for no ‘poo, he laughs at me and says “No way. Never.”
But we had a breakthrough the other day. He told me that if I could make him a shaving cream alternative that works as well as his Barbasol, he would be open to trying new things. I think he was just tired of having bumpy razor burn looking things all the time. But whatever gets him motivated.
So I have two questions to you: Do you know of a really fantastic shaving cream alternative for men that I could make? And do you have any suggestions on how I can talk to him about my desire for having a house free of synthetic chemicals and dangerous substances, without it sounding like I’m being a harpy?
Skip and I hit this really weird resistance level two nights ago. We’d run out of Ziploc bags (after buying them at Costco, like, a year ago) and I told him I wouldn’t be buying anymore. Because I’m done bringing unnecessary plastic into our house.
I could see his eyebrows dip when I said it, but he didn’t grumble much – because at that point, he was getting ready to cover a cookie sheet with aluminum foil to make french bread.
“Also,” I said tentatively, “maybe you should stop using so much aluminum foil. You use it for quesadillas, for bread, for roasting garlic and warming up pie. Our cookie sheets are meant to be washed. The aluminum is a little excessive, maybe? A little?”
(Sometimes I expect him to put aluminum over his aluminum foil so the bottom aluminum foil doesn’t get dirty.)
He was not happy about this. Like, so not happy that he used aluminum foil as a plate for dinner. Just to show me.
So, I’ve hit a resistance level here, too.
Not to mention, I haven’t found a homemade shaving cream alternative he enjoys. He didn’t mind this one, but he also didn’t love it. When I’ve asked him if he wanted me to make him more, he’s said, “Uh. Yeah. Sure. But maybe next week or something.” That means no, right?
So here are the questions:
1. Do you have a shaving cream alternative that you’ve used with your man – that he likes and uses regularly? Or have you seen one elsewhere?
2. What advice would you give to the reader above on how to talk to her husband about switching over to homemade skincare/haircare?
3. Do you have any suggestions on how to ease a man into giving up his old store-bought habits for greener, more frugal options? Like, for instance, how to convince a man that it’s just as easy to use a jar as it is a Ziploc bag?
Or do you think it’s not up to us to convince them – and just hope that some day they get on the same page as we are?
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