One of my friends recently brought up an issue so many people have these days:
“How on earth,” she asked me one night, “do you afford to eat organic and grass-fed and make your own skincare stuff out of all these essential oils? I couldn’t possibly afford that.”
And, to my surprise, my answer was “priorities.”
As the conversation, and glasses of wine, went on, she lamented on how much she wanted to start eating more healthily, but she just didn’t think she had the money for it. The more we talked, the more she pointed out how expensive her cell phone and cable bills were. And how she loved to go out to eat twice a week. And she and her husband had two car payments, along with the expensive of dinner-and-a-movie nights twice a month.
You can see the quandary, right?
She was aghast at the choices I’ve made – a $30-a-month cell phone plan that didn’t include a smart phone, the fact that I hadn’t bought any new clothes in the last six months, that I don’t go out to eat more than once a month, and that I didn’t have a car. “Don’t you feel like you’re missing out on SO MUCH? Just so you can eat healthy and buy these things for your skin and your blog?”
I had to think long and hard on this one, because sometimes I do feel like I’m missing out. Would that I could buy every new season of J. Jill’s clothes. Would that I knew what it was like to tilt an iPhone and watch my app do something cool. (This is all I know of iPhones being good for.) Would that I could take a spontaneous road trip to Denver to sit in a couch in the new Ikea.
But the truth is, I’m so golden with making decisions that support my priorities. Ninety-percent of the time, I don’t feel like I’m missing out on a thing, because I feel so danged good, in my brain and in my heart. Those things I’ve given up? Almost all of them are unnecessary to me right now.
So I thought this would be a great community question for you, and something that so many people struggle with can swing by and read and learn that giving up some things in support of new things isn’t sacrifice or suffering – it’s a phenomenal shift of perception and desires.
I know I’m an extreme example, mainly because we haven’t two pennies to throw at each other for the last two years. I’ve actually had to give up a giant amount of things to support this healthy habit. But looking back, it wasn’t giving anything up. It was learning a new way to live.
How Did You Shift Your Priorities … Painlessly?
Maybe “painlessly” is a stretch. And I know in so many fabulous ways, the “crunchier” lifestyle is actually less expensive than buying things at the store. But when it comes to organic, locally grown, or grass-fed foods, all that savings is out the window.
And, to wit, it can be really expensive when you first start buying ingredients to make your own skincare products (if you want to get fancy). The items last forever but the initial cost can be a little eyebrow-raising.
So do you feel like you’ve had to give things up in order to “get” this crunchy lifestyle? Even if you’re only a some-or-most-of-the-timer (which I’m guessing many, many of us are … everyone needs a Domino’s pizza now and then).
How did you deal with rearranging your priorities?
If you were talking to my friend (or so many of the other people who’ve said nearly these exact same things to me), what advice/insight would you give them?
(PS – I’m turning to you, because I felt like anything I could possibly say to her would sound preachy and judgy. When it comes from a stranger, it’s just good old-fashioned advice. 🙂