Such a small distinction, that between anti and pro, but it makes a world of difference in the way you approach life.
Ask yourself: What brings me more joy? What allows me to grow fully into a caring, compassionate person? Being anti-something or being pro-something?
Two sides of the same coin, those are, and in our world of duality (up/down, left/right, right/wrong) one must choose to be anti or pro something nearly every day.
I’ve realized that my station in life (at least at this point in time) is not to be anti-corporate, or anti-money, or anti-cosmetic-companies. (Although I reserve the right to be human and rant when I forget this momentarily.)
My growth and happiness comes from being pro-community, pro-sharing, and pro-personal-responsibility.
The other sides of the coin still exist, though. They are still there, lurking on the underbelly of all that I am “pro.” And were I to be fully spiritually matured, I would be neither anti- nor pro- anything.
I would walk the middle path, where there is no right/wrong, and no us/them. I am not there quite yet. Please forgive me.
The change I want to be in the world is moving-forward, expanding-graciously. Not looking-down and stomping-angrily. And though I have nothing but honor and respect for organizations who take cosmetic companies to task, or who speak out against atrocities, I cannot look down and stomp at the same time I’m looking ahead and sharing.
I’ve realized that in the moments you’re feeling gratitude and joy, there’s no room left for anger and blame.
Change Your World By Being Pro
Chances are, you don’t walk the middle path constantly, either.
You get mad at your spouse. About one little thing. That he does. All the time.
You’re exasperated by your boss who expects you to pick up her slack, even when you know she’s out three days a week at boozy 3-hour lunches.
Your kids drive you absolutely nuts because they just won’t listen. They never listen.
You’re anti all of those things that happen to you, aren’t you?
They bug you, peeve you, and sometimes literally make you think about moving to a small abandoned cottage in New Hampshire. With a cat. Maybe.
Stop being anti those things.
YOU. YOU STOP.
(And by that, I mean start. YOU START. Being pro the other things.)
Focus on being pro the things you love about your family, your job, your friends. Look at the parts that you want to grow – the ways you want your life (with all its beautiful messes) to expand joyously.
Your attention and focus is your water. And your life is your garden.
What you water, grows.
If you’re pouring focus and attention on what you love, you can expect that to bloom promptly. If you’re pouring focus and attention on the bad things, you can expect a full crop of crap later this week.
Start being pro more things. Today.
As hard as it is, and as much as your ego wants to strangle the breath from your kindness: Be pro.
(I’m pro that.)